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alright.. i trust you guys and ive befriended a few of you, youve helped me alot with my car but now i have a little more of a personal problem.. please.. i need your advice..

ever since ive moved away from my home in Tennessee when my mother dragged me down here to live with her high school "sweetheart" of god knows how long ago ive found living with her to be less and less homely as the days go by. first off.. this "nice guy" that is supposedly the guy shes "in love with" is a complete *******.. first day i met him he pulled me away from my mom and started yelling at me.. (4 years ago mind you..). his words were

"You are one of the worst children ive had the misfortune to meet(now keep in mind hes seen me in person all of 20 minutes before this little "talk").. your going to respect my house and if you do ONE thing wrong while you living with us your out of my ****ing house.. thats it, no ifs ands or buts.. as soon as your 18, broke and jobless as you may be your out on the streets. i dont care what you or your mother says.. your not living with me after your legal"

well so far mom has convinced him to let me stay until i can get an apartment..
i have 2 jobs.. i work my ass off to keep this house up and running (mom makes too little and her boyfriend or fatass as i call him pays 2/3 of his 2K [biweekly..] checks to child support.). im completely under appreciated in my family.. ive put a new roof on the dock and water proofed it without so much as a thank you.. a week later they take out a loan, hire an independent contractor and have the whole ****ing thing rebuilt.. ive repainted this whole house inside and out and i dont get ****.. even a simple "thank you" would suffice.. but i get NOTHING.

to me ... right now.. this is nothing of what a home should be.. were ALWAYS fighting.. someone usually ends up putting a hole in a wall and walking out of the house every night because they just cant stand it..(usually me..). we never go out and do "family things" like go to that park or the movies or whatever a family usually does.. i cant take this anymore.. i have to respect the house and everything (and everyone) in it.. which i do, and yet no one knows im there until they want to complaing about my car being in the driveway or some stupid **** that i always get screamed at.

the most recent occurance of something like this is about an hour ago.. my moms getting ready for a baby shower shes throwing tomorrow and shes over stressing and crying. so i offer to go and get my girlfriend tomorrow before i leave for the airport and have her help her for the day until i get back.. i try to ****ing help and what do i get.. my own mother throws a pair of scissors at me and starts screaming about how i cant even afford to be nice and do other things around the housse so why should i offer to get someone to help her..

i need to leave guys.. i cant take this any more but i don't have the money to leave.. i could move to Tennessee but i don't want to leave my girl behind.. and i have no friends i can move in with down here.. so im stuck.. can you guys give me some advice to make this a little more bearable.. i really appreciate you input.. thanks in advance guys..
 

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Jezz Zack sorry to hear friend . Best of luck to you bud .
thanks darren. its means alot that you just took the time to read it.

the only things i have that make me happy anymore is my girl, you guys here on TCCoA, and working on my car.. this just isnt right.... theres still a huge hole where my so called "family" is supposed to be.. sadly enough.. ive known my girlfriends family for all of.. maybe 2 of the 7 months weve been together and theyre more of a family than mine will ever be..
 

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Dude, that dude is an asshat. Dillweed. What ever you would like to call him.

you have got to find something for yourself. you have got to get out there on your own. I don't know how you can do it, but you need your independence.
 

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heck come up here to tennessee and we will treat you right,and take your g-freind with you
wish i could.. then id have both my birds again! lol but shes not legal to move out.. youd be one to know that rob lol since youve probably looked at her myspace :tongue:
 

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Keep your cool and save your pennys.Put up with the chit alittle longer and get your own place.

If you can't move out of state than thats what you need to do.And remember your Girlfirend probley won't be your last.You're only 18 years old man.

Start looking for a roomate.Don't offer anyhelp and just ignore your mom and her boyfriend.When they talk to you just be short and sweet.Like yes and no answers for everything.That will bother them more than anything.And when you get your place just show up in a truck and pack you chit and leave.No notice to them or anything.

Try it.
 

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Hey Zack, that is a BS situation you're in. It sounds like you're trying to do the right thing, but I have to agree that it's time for you to go. If I understood your initial post right, you're helping pay the way, so how about checking Craigslist for rooms for rent? I did a quick search and found this in the Sarasota area (reasonably close to you) just as an example. http://sarasota.craigslist.org/roo/736298902.html It's probably not ideal, but better than what you're dealing with now.
 

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Hey Zack, that is a BS situation you're in. It sounds like you're trying to do the right thing, but I have to agree that it's time for you to go. If I understood your initial post right, you're helping pay the way, so how about checking Craigslist for rooms for rent? I did a quick search and found this in the Sarasota area (reasonably close to you) just as an example. http://sarasota.craigslist.org/roo/736298902.html It's probably not ideal, but better than what you're dealing with now.
thanks man. thats about an 1 1/2 hours from me.. not too bad of a neighborhood either.. i might check that out even if you were just using it as an example lol
 

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Glad to see you got a little relief, anyway. Heck, I might be calling on you soon to find out about neighborhoods and schools since my next likely job will take me to Florida.
 

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Glad to see you got a little relief, anyway. Heck, I might be calling on you soon to find out about neighborhoods and schools since my next likely job will take me to Florida.
palmetto/bradenton/sarasota.. decent cities.. stpete isnt much better but still lol.. wheres your next job?
 

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Why does it have to be the Air Force? Or are you saying that just to Fack with me?
or the USN, USCG, or Army. He doesnt strike me as the marine corps type.
 

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