Okay, a little over a month ago, I met this chick...she's a year younger than me, lives with her parents, she seemed cool for a while....but things have been getting worse...her parents are riding her hard to get her act together (get a better job, get your own place, etc.) which I can understand...but lately all this stuff has been coming out about physical/psychological abuse from parents...the family is really screwed up...she's kinda screwed up from it...but things didnt seem all that bad, it really just seemed like a "get away from your parents and have your own life and you'll be fine" issue. I had been stressed about everything for the last two weeks...her issues with her parents are hard to deal with (they are saying things about me, etc.) Basically I'd been thinking of breaking things off with her becuase of all this crap--I don't need this stress in my life...every other aspect of my life is GREAT....I do not need baggage...I had chronic depression for about three hard years....so I can understand where she is coming from on a lot of this stuff, becuase I know what it is like to feel like total crap all the time and not really know why. I was, however, being patient & considering all of my options, I do not want to be an a-hole, ya know? However, I do not know how much more of this I can take. Last night she dumped a ton of bricks on me...for a while she'd been telling me that "sometimes she gets really depressed and has to talk to one of her friends to avoid doing "something stupid"" I figured this would be something like "I've thought about/I am thinking about suicide" type of thing--I can deal with this...as I said, from about age 17-20 I was really depressed (yes, to that point--I am okay now, couldn't be happer) But she told me something I completely did not expect...she told me that she will get super depressed & take needles/paper clips/pins, sanitize them, and start scraping skin away, to the point of bleeding...so basically she cuts on herself....my response to this was "Oh sh*t" I don't know what to do...she needs help with all of her issues, but I don't want to be in a relationship with somebody like this...BUT I feel bad breaking things off becuase they have issues, but at the same time, I DON'T NEED THIS! It isn't my job to rescue her from her demons....plus I"ve noticed a...um...pattern here....every time we go out & eat dinner at a restaraunt, she'll eat a bit, or all of it, and then go "I have to go to the bathroom" she'll be gone for a while & then come back. NOw, I'm not accusing her of anything here, it just looks a little suspicious, with all of the other issues, plus not eating normally anyway, plus this, jeez, I dunno what to do. I am leaving for vacation for a while, and I don't know what I am going to tell her when I get back. It sucks. Why can't I meet NORMAL people?!?!? For the record, I feel really bad for her and I don't want to hurt her, but I just don't know what to do, and I do not want to get in too deep on something that is going to screw things up in my life...I hope this doesn't sound selfish, but I just do not know what to do.